Emotionally intimate BEFORE sexually intimate.. HOW TRUE?

in #writing7 years ago (edited)

Have you ever told yourself that you were madly in love with someone & after having sex with the person, you realized that what you were feeling wasn't love, but lust?( like, you realize that you just had hots for him/her).
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Have you ever slept with the wrong person too soon, but went on to have a relationship with the person anyway just to legitimize the sex, so you wouldn't look like a tramp? [Barbara De Angelis].images (3).jpeg
So, yea.. If you answered "yes" to any of these questions,or had kinda similar experiences, it could be probably because you ignored the " TITLE ABOVE".
Having sex too soon is one of the most common and hurtful mistakes we make in relationships "i could say, especially for the females".
When i say " too soon". I am not referring to a time period per say, like five dates or two months but instead, on how much true emotional closeness and compatibility has been established between you.
Each of us have different moral values that guide our decisions in life. You may believe it's wrong to have sex before marriage or you may think its fine to have sex whenever and with whomever you wish and truly i am not here to tell you what is right or wrong for you. What i can tell you is following the system of being emotionally intimate first before the latter will make us not end up just having sex with a partner, but truly MAKING LOVE; and that, whenever you do decide to share the beautiful experience of sexual union with someone, both of your hearts will be open and hence, making love will do what its name suggests it's supposed to do: it could make even more love between you two.
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This is what wisdom means in life. Be patient and spend the time to figure it out first before doing the action. Once done you can never go back. A lot of people in today's world are living at a "fast pace" hence make split decisions. Some decisions can be corrected while others can not. Often decisions are made to quickly without realizing the repercussions.

I think it is the most hurtful for both parties. Now that man might think that he wants or needs for this to happen, but it clouds our judgement as men. I have been in both situations and truly waiting and learning each other for whatever the period might be makes the whole experience of love and intimacy far more intense and meaningful . Not saying that it will mean that doing this will guarantee happiness, but it it will give everyone involved a greater understanding of what they are getting into before that are already inside.

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