When Will You Get Married?
And? When will it be? No @lupega I won't ask you since I already know the answer... it's NO! LOL
We'll see if you change your mind, as time may come when you will, although...
I wonder if @dim753 ever said he will never get married and how about you, @almaguer and all the others who are married and.. still are married? Will any of you speak out? Did you change your mind? Did you wish it had gone differently? Other partner, no partner, better marriage or less intense, too many worries or more worryless?
Do you feel low instead of high or is it high and no longer low? I wonder. Do you hope to make a dream come true or one last forever? What if you have no green fingers and everything dies when you touch? What if you know that you are only missed if you are not around? You love if that special one is not around, but it drives you mad if they s/he is around?
What if you only dream and cannot sleep if you are alone and feel annoyed if you share a home?
How easy is it to let go or set free or simply let someone be? What if it's true that you only miss the sun is there's no sun and you are 100 percent sure you can only love if you let go? Is it human to doubt?
Is it a real problem if you don't want to get married, if you are not married, if being single is a better match?
Does that paper change anything? Can't we just make a promise, do a vow without being ripped off by the government, the city, the family?
We are all human and does it matter if we refuse to get married?
Thankfully, no one ever asked me: When will you get married? Although that doesn't mean I haven't been asked: When will you have children? Today I've been even asked: Where did you get that baby, as I showed a photo of me and the baby.
BTW a good reason to marry would have been seeing Maroon 5 showing up.
11.11.25
Prompt: see title
I've come up with about fifty questions in such a short space. I've never thought about that question. My free thinking. Sometimes it's not in direct line with what most people think or are swayed by. I have my own interpretation of what it should be.
I've been very unconcerned with the established laws and conventions on this subject. Because a true relationship is based on both parties freely wanting to belong.
Sacred laws, or not, matter little if one of the parties isn't interested or doesn't want to continue. It's not an imposed bond; love belongs, it's maintained through respect. They are two very different worlds that must flow in the same direction or try hard to do so. We can make mistakes, we can improve, we can grow. A relationship cannot belittle either party, it cannot humiliate in any way. The woman is the delicate one; she must feel protected, loved. It's good to have someone who listens to us, to have a recognizable figure in old age. Lies should not exist.
It's normal to have doubts, to miss them when they're not around; I think it all depends on one's mood. It's very human to doubt. All thoughts beyond the people we love or care about matter little. We only have one life. And in the long run, loneliness awaits, so while we can, we should surround ourselves with those who love and appreciate us.
Those who don't want to be in our lives always have the option to leave. Suffering is human, but it's not forever; you shouldn't suffer for those who don't want to be in our circle. We have root friends and leaf friends. The difference is significant.
The writer José Martí had a very profound concept about this: a spiritual and emotional union that goes beyond the superficial, based on respect, complicity, and commitment to life and the struggle.
Does loneliness awaits or does it depend on the person? Can it be that talks, since generations, we should get married to feel complete triggers the idea of loneliness simply because society claims it's impossible to feel complete if being single?
What you describe is in my eyes love, but love doesn't need (like we call it) the butter wrap (a paper).
Such a paper will for sure make it very hard to leave (years of misery and bankruptcy included and a small chance to start a new life. If you ask me life is too short for that).
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Honestly, the question of "When will you get married?" is such an intrusive question depending on who's asking it.
I don't mind close relationships asking if the conversation naturally goes there, but it shouldn't be asked by just any busybody who feels they can poke into your life like how they feel they can walk into your home uninvited. 🚪
People have so many personal and private reasons for their current status: whether they want to get married or not, wanting to marry but facing external pressure to split up, navigating divorce and remarriage, or even being unable to legally marry the person they love.
If you ask me family is the first poking around and rarely likes seeing you happy. Being unable to be with the one you love is the worst (no need to get married,a living together contract can do the trick as well (works where taxes should be paid) and if the relationship ends it's way cheaper and easier to leave (unless the ex is a stalker).
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Creo que el matrimonio es un "contrato" que acaba con los sentimientos.
Yo no creo en el matrimonio, pero sí en la convivencia de la pareja. Tengo 30 años de relación con mi marido. Él tiene un hijo de su segundo matrimonio. Yo decidí no tener hijos.
Como pareja nos respetamos y apoyamos. Tenemos acuerdos de convivencia y, a través del tiempo, hemos logrado una sinergia maravillosa que nos permite pasar largas horas conversando y también largas horas en silencio.
Así que comparto las ideas de @lupega.
Living in silence, as in understanding and completeness, knowing there's no need to discuss everything is all one needs and hearing you, you proved that a formality isn't needed to improve and have a good relationship.
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Así es. Las relaciones duraderas son aquellas en las que la pareja tiene la libertad de decidir si continúa en convivencia o no. Es decir, la libertad une.
That's right. Lasting relationships are those in which the couple has the freedom to decide whether to continue living together or not. In other words, freedom brings people together.
I am married and I can feel everything now. Marriage was my blunder. I lost peace of mind after this. Would that I had been able to control my feelings.
How come you lost peace of mind?
Did the relationship, or should I say: can a relationship change by signing a paper?
Is it possible we just believe it is more serious? If you ask me a relationship is what it is and two have to like it, have things in common and grow into the same direction. That last one is hard. Simply because as time passes by we change. We learn our likes and dislikes and who knows we all aren't meant or suitable to sacrifice our own happiness for someone else let alone the family.
A relationship should be a bond and bring energy not slowly kill us, which was what I experienced.
I hope you find a way out of this situation. Life is too short to feel misserable, stressed and depressed 24/7.
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I love my freedom. But after marriage I lost it. My wife sometimes become very irrational and moody. This makes me very tense. I can live with a rational enemy but I can't afford to have a irrational and illogical friend.
I will NEVER get married.
I heard you! Don't worry, there's no need to, not even if you have a relationship. It saves you years of misery and a lot of money (marriage is way too expensive).
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hahahaha,I don't want someone in my life telling me what I can and can't do. Just thinking about it bothers me. I have a very strong personality, I've already told you that and it's true, so it's better to be alone .
Your comment is really surprising, something serious must have happened in the past that led you to make this statement.
Though I hope you are making the right decision for yourself. 🥹
I will never get married and I will never be a father. I had a vasectomy two years and a few months ago, and I absolutely do not regret making this decision despite being very young.
This is really huge.
What was the reason you had such surgery friend? 🤔
There is too much evil in this world; there are even those who have the wonderful job of selling videos recorded with children, and these children are NOT playing. They are bastards.
Yes you are right, there's a lot of evil in this world but it doesn't mean you shouldn't get married sir.
You just need to be more prayerful and things will get better for you, my focused here is about you getting your own child so that you can get the opportunity to have someone you trained to be a better person in life.
I've already made my decision, I won't change my mind, in fact I'll never be a father, I had a vasectomy.
Ok sir. I wish you all the best.
You clearly have no children. Ut's 24/7 worrying, fighting with family, neighbours, teachers and your child for a bit of love, respect, luck and happiness.
Praying won't help where pedophiles, bullies, envy, greed,poverty and depression rule.
I am here with @lupega.
I have no children yet doesn't me I'm not close to understanding what those disturbance actually means.
That's wrong. As long as we are praying to God and our hands are clean, gradually things will be better.
Such a silly question. Maybe you can tell them you found the baby in the bamboo tree like in the Japanese tale.
Very silly question, day by day we see or hear people asking questions that are too unnecessary and I don't know why they choose to ask such questions.
Ofcourse a stupid question deserves a stupid answer 😂
Very true.
Let's say it was a gift from a bird who dropped it in a bamboo tree and I had to be fast to snatch it away from panda bear.
I keep that answer in mind 😅
Sofia and I agree not to get married , it's not necessary, we're fine as we are.