RE: Can there be two queens in a kingdom?
I’m not married yet, so take my opinion lightly, haha. But from what I’ve seen among my friends, living with parents after marriage can get complicated fast. A home usually needs one manager, and traditionally that role shifts to the wife. When a couple lives with parents, especially the husband’s side, you suddenly have two managers in one house: two sets of rules, two styles of cooking, two ways of cleaning, two completely different views on parenting. And when those differences clash, the daughter-in-law is often expected to adjust.
Some families make it work peacefully, but most of the people I know say they’d prefer their own space - not out of disrespect, but simply for mental peace. They want the freedom to build their household without feeling supervised or overruled.
Money doesn’t always allow it, but emotionally, it’s easy to see why couples want their own space.
You’ve summed it up quite well. It’s indeed more of an emotional dilemma than a physical one. Living under one roof with two strong personalities and different value systems can be emotionally draining. The daughter-in-law often ends up walking on eggshells — trying to balance respect, expectations, and her own individuality. In most cases, she becomes the most affected person in this tug-of-war between tradition and personal space.