It's Not Always Pretty

in #different7 years ago

Of course, I have to talk about what self-care looks like when you’re a student. As an undergraduate student, I have to admit I wasn’t exactly aware of self-care. As a young woman, before becoming a parent, although I was working full-time I basically had 100% control over my time. As a graduate student, parent of 2 (almost 3) little ones, and someone with the maturity to know what it looks like to invest in a marriage, that entire dialogue has changed. Self-care is critical to my success as a student and all-around “adult” (I think at 30 I have to accept that I am definitely an adult).

But what self-care looks like is probably pretty weird, and definitely doesn’t fit the popular culture model of what self-care looks like.

For me, physical clutter is basically a death sentence to any kind of helpful or productive brain process. When there are toys everywhere, I can’t focus on reading or writing academically. If there are several days’ worth of dishes on the kitchen counter, that’s all I can think about. Keeping my home relatively clean is an exercise in self-care because it helps me to focus on the brain work that is graduate work.

Self-care is sacrificing my lunch breaks to homework so that I can focus on my family in the evening and honor the fact that after a day of talking to everyone (sometimes that feels literal) I don’t have the brain power to process anything about organizational management or fundraising strategies.

Whenever possible (and this semester was a challenge, my professor wasn’t exactly on board), looking at the syllabus and planning out your homework in advance so that you have an idea of what to expect. Give yourself some wiggle room for those life catastrophes. Planning ahead can help you reach your goals.

If you’re a student, what are some things you do to make sure you have time for self-care?

 
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Self-care is really important and, even if you have a thousand things to do, taking time for yourself is essencial. I usually take the evenings for myself, doing what makes me happy and resting :)

I am so glad you're able to take time for yourself!

yes self care is so important and needs to be advocated, we need to be reminded daily, thank you @rachelhanson10 for doing just that.

Writing about it helps remind me to engage in self care too, haha. I'm so glad to be writing about it this month, because it's been a challenging month and would have been more challenging if I wasn't being mindful about this.

Love starts in your own heart for yourself first!
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Thank you for sharing 🙂.

Personal care is important, it is our cover letter at first sight. Taking care of our appearance is essential, we must save some time to do it.

If a specific look is what you need to function adequately then you should absolutely take the time to create it!

Great question, and thanks for sharing your own strategies!

  • Getting organized early is a big one for me. I have a really intense school binder setup with information listed redundantly throughout and on a wall calendar. I also download/buy/photocopy all the readings and put them in folders in my dropbox, organized by class and week.
  • Prioritizing homework over going out, and giving myself permission to decline invitations in order to protect my mental energy.
  • Reading for fun, not just cramming school reading.
  • Letting myself have time off when I'm mentally exhausted, by watching tv or drawing or listening to podcasts.
  • Joining a choir. I love to sing, and it's actually really good for you—there are studies that back me up on this! I took a one-credit choir course each term my last year of undergrad (except the semester in Ghana, when I took a dance course).

Thank you for these! I was in several choirs before becoming a mom, now it's a struggle :(.

I love that you give yourself permission to decline things, including homework, to balance that mental load ❤️.