I will tell more later, thanks for your reply. It was in Holland. The social workers that looked after us were sincere, it were the people that were put on the case that had another agenda. At first it never crossed my mind, just after all this had passed I put the puzzle together. I have many many examples of situations where they did not do the right thing. I will post more soon. I dont want to say that every place is like this, of course there are good ones, but I know that when you deal with a very sick partner (as in narcissistic or psychopathic) they will twirl the social workers around their fingers easily. Unfortunately I know many examples of other women too in Holland. I "escaped" (explain this later in another post) the second shelter on time, just before they took over everything. But my ex was allready executing his plan far along.. I just did not see it then, it simply was too hard to believe that he could succeed. Thanks for your support btw .. I will try to post every day as my story is very long and I remember every detail ..