They are excellent at manipulation... I'm guessing it was a state run shelter (that's what it sounds like to me). The one where I did repairs was private so there was no state intervention. I had a lot of friends on the police force and they recommended me for the job (I'm also not an abuser of women). One strange thing... I dated a couple of the women at the shelter and every one left me to get back into an abusive relationship- I could never quite figure that out. I'm looking forward to reading it and happy to support you... I post on @familyprotection quite a bit.