I'm in love with your writing, especially when you talked about your experience while growing up.
You said something about growing up as a lady and even now, that you have witnessed large families in which parents struggle to make ends meet and cater for their large families. In this case, the children don't have quality education and can't even feed well.

You talk about property sharing in cases where the parents is dead and conflict arises during that time.

You have concluded in your post that you desire a small family where you will have a peace of mind. That's a good one, tha k you for sharing your ideas and I wish you luck.