SEC - S9W6: " My Biggest Challenge-Cope with Grief"

Acrylic painting by @stef1

 

Hello dear Steemians,

 

Today I wanted to submit my post for this contest that opens everyone an opportunity to talk about an important challenge in their lives. We all facing challenges every day, some are important and other just ordinary. Therefore, the topic of this challenge opens a door for everyone to express their thoughts. I apologise in advance for posting on last day but unfortunately, due to my commitments of my daily work I had not much time to prepare post and only today I have a chance to write. I would like to thank the RECREATIVE STEEM community for hosting this contest and if there is anyone who still has not noticed it, here is the link:

https://steemit.com/hive-141434/@hive-141434/sec-s9w6-mi-mayor-desafio-sec-s9w6-my-biggest-challenge

 

My Biggest Challenge-Cope with Grief

 

When I think about the topic and scroll through my life I can find many moments where I would say that this or that event was my biggest challenge. But to be honest none of them can be compared with the biggest challenge in our life that everyone did face or will be facing and this is a loss of someone closest and dear person.

I believe a lot depend on on what stage of our life we face it, the younger we are the more harder it is for our mental health to digest that and to overcome, many can end up with long term depression and even worse.

While we are children we have fun with our siblings of friends, spending endless summer and thinking that this world is created for us only and we together with our families are main character of this life.
 

 

"Happy Childhood" by @Stef1
 
 

As to my experience, I was only eighteen and just finished school, was happy that one stage of my life was successfully completed and was preparing myself for new stage of becoming a student of Medical University. That summer we received a news, that my father was diagnosed with cancer. I never forget my parents that moment. My father was crying the very first time I ever seen and of course, seeing that my mother cried too. I was helpless because I did not have any medical knowledge and was not able to do anything.

That stage there were many different emotions and many thoughts I did not know that it is normal and everyone in grief experiencing that. But only decades later I understood that.

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If you might remember there are fife stages of Grief:

 

• Denial:

I remember that very well, I was pretty sure that the diagnosis was wrong, I remember I told my mother that the diagnosis is written Adenocarcinoma and not a Cancer so it could be something different. I also remember how my mother was angry and said that this is another name of Cancer, this is first time I heard that and of course, never forgotten. I started to look through the medical books, without much understanding the nature and treatment. It took my a while till that stage passed.

• Anger:

This is another stage that I well remember, because I was angry towards everyone around even the people who I did not know, because they were healthy and they had right to live and my father not. I was angry towards the doctors and thought that they do not know their speciality field because they were saying that they can not help him. I was angry about myself, because I did not have knowledge yet to find out what we could do. I wished I was in the last year of my study and not just starting my study.

• Bargaining:

I do not remember if I went through this stage much. The only thing might be that I thought that I will learn good and will become a good doctor.

• Depression

The whole world and life became senseless, why we live if we anyway die. Especially that stage became more prominent when my father had surgery and deteriorated quickly. I think I overcome that stage quickly because I had to be strong for my mother and siblings. The same time it helped me too.

• Acceptance:

Earlier of later when we go through all the stages, at the end we just accept it, we let our dear people go because we do not want them to suffer longer and we accept the fact that all of us have only one golden ticket to live and have to live best we can. The life is too short and people around us are not forever there. Enjoy every moment that you spend with your parents, family, friends.
 

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There will be more of such situation and I wish you all to be strong and hope that there will be good supportive people around you in such hard time.

There are many of Steemians took part int eh contest and I wonder if following would be interested to take part: @emocional-mente, @grisaia-steem, @jollymonoara

 

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CURATION TRIAL @worldofxpilar

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