Self -Control

Life can always test a person like exam that doesn't have timetable. Sometimes it will be temptation of food, sometimes anger, sometimes a woman or a man problem, sometimes it will be money which is not your own. The way you can hold yourself at that kind of situation will show if you have self control or you not.

Self control simply mean that moment which you can tell yourself “no” even when your body is shouting “yes.” It's the power which a person have to hold back from doing what can spoil his life or reputation. Or , self control is when you can hold your body and mind From misbehaving.

Example: If a person insult you at a bus stop, self control is when you can calm down, not to throw punch, because you that fight can land you in the police station. It's also the ability to balance your emotion, your desire, and your action together.

I will know by the way he behave in different situations, like.

• Patience: A Person that doesn't rush to do things anyhow, even when he's angry.

• Decision Making: They will think before they act. It's not every small thing that will push them to react.

• Consistency: He will keep to promise, respect time, and avoid problems.

• Calmness: Even when everybody is shouting, he will maintain a cool head.

For example, if two friends do argue, one might shout anyhow, but the other will just be thinking and reasoning, and he'll talk gently. That calm one is a person that have self control.

Truth is that, self control is not something which everybody is born with. Some small children are naturally calm, but majority of people need to learn it as they are growing.

• Science side: Psychologists says that self control can develop as a person brain keeps maturing. That part of brain which control decision will grow well as a person is entering teenage and adulthood.

• Real life side: If you grow in an environment were people do always rush or love fight, you might pick that habit. But if you are around people that are calm, you will learn to hold yourself.

So, self control is a mixture of small natural behavior plus a lot of learning. That's why parents do always teach children “Dont touch hot pot,” “Dont lick sweet before food,” because it's a training for self control.

Honestly, here comes the real test. Anybody can just say “I have self control,” but it's when temptation show face you will know who is who.

• Money temptation: If I see wallet on the ground, I can carry it to the police station or return to the owner if I know who have. Or I ignored it and go my way.

• Relationship temptation: If I'm married but another person comes to me , I can get hold of myself to show self control.

• Anger temptation: If a person slap me or brings a fight, I will walk away instead of to fight

Well, self control is not really that easy. Sometimes hunger can push a person, sometimes frustration can make a person to be really angry. But the truth is that , the more you practice self control, the stronger you will be. It's like muscles which keeps growing as you are using it.

Finally,in all have learned that self control is the real power which separate a wise person from foolish person. Simply,it's just the ability to hold my body, my mouth, and my action when temptation comes. We all can say that it's not easy, but it's very possible. We all can have self control by training, discipline, and awareness.

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