| SLC-S29/W4-“Thinking and Ideas!| Rethinking the Normal!”
In today's society, there are many beliefs, norms, customs, and habits that are common around us. Some of these customs have taken deep roots in the society such that they are being seen as normal. The origin of such beliefs or practices cannot be traced back to how they began, but we can only tell "how they are going." However, not everything that is common or a tradition is beneficial or useful for present realities. Out of the many beliefs in the world, I would like to mention just one, which is still common in our society today.
Name one practice, belief, or system that people accept as normal but should be questioned. |
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One of the common practices or beliefs that is still common in the society is that a woman's place is in the kitchen. In ancient times, work was divided into two halves: one half was hunting, farming, and fighting wars, which was for men, and the other half was meant for women, which included child care, managing the home, and finally cooking. This belief was well known and rampant mostly in the 19th century, when women were married to be housewives and to stay and work in the kitchen while the man went to work. As of the 21st century, men no longer value going into the kitchen, especially when they are married. They see this as as a duty of a woman, and all they do is just give her money to buy foodstuff and other necessities for the kitchen
Why do you think people rarely challenge it? |
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People rarely challenge it because it has become subtle in the sense that women can now have access to education and work. So with this, the society believes they have given women access to something they have been denied access to. Despite having work and education, they still receive money from men to keep the kitchen stacked full, and for this, men do not seem to want to visit the kitchen because they believe the money they give women is enough for them not to visit the kitchen.
Also, the society is believed to be a man's world; hence, everything in it is being run by a man. So, no matter how women fight against this propaganda, they cannot be fully heard.
What could improve if this “normal” way changed? |
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A lot can actually improve. First is that there would be unity in such a family. Anyone can take up the task of preparing a meal or assisting the other in the kitchen. Another advantage is that there will be division of labor. Each person can perform duties for the other person if need be. For example. If the woman is pregnant, the man can cook, and if the man is sick, she can take up the task.
Also, no one would feel inferior, but instead they will grow to love and respect eachother.
What might be lost if it disappeared completely? |
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Nothing would be lost, honestly; this is because the kitchen is home to both the man and the woman. Everyone, including the children, can visit the kitchen to assist with either cleaning, cooking, or washing.
I invite @alexmartin04, @omiprincess, @mac-com to participate and read on this.
One of the best meals I've eaten were prepared by men. This does not mean that the women didn't do a great job.
It just goes to show that everyone is capable of perfecting their culinary skills if only they try.
Actually, every point you've raised here is valid. It captures today's reality perfectly. Especially how the access to education makes this stereotype subtle.
But then, I've always been of the opinion that most ladies naturally believe they rule the kitchen and if a guy should step in, he must do it like a support and not a full-time work.
Our ladies love pampering their men. Ah! Regardless of how tedious and time consuming cooking might be.
Yes, it's social conditioning. And there are guys who already Lord the kitchen now, but on a scale of 1-10, I think the chances of people fully accepting that the kitchen isn't particularly reserved for anyone is 5.
It will tell a while for ads to stop advertising women when we are talking about food or churches to assign cooking roles to men during events. 😄
I'd love to see this change effected though. But I doubt it might happen anytime soon.
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Rethinking the normal means understanding that roles like cooking and cleaning are not defined by gender but by shared responsibility.
True growth and equality begin when we create homes and societies where everyone contributes, respects, and supports one another equally.
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This mentality has over the years become normal that every man now see the women as slaves. The kitchen is meant for everyone and anyone.