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RE: Love, Chocolate and My First Crush
You visited Nihon then. I don't like receiving gifts, but giving is a necessity. In Japan it makes sense a little, as they are not that consumerist, especially in the rural parts. They are more inclined to buy something for others as well. I don't get Valentine's either, it just does not resonate with me.
I read about your early school experience. Although it can be a traumatic experience, I chuckled, as I was like no... don't do that...you'll regret it later. It is easy now to compartmentalize, as we are older and understand these things. But a younger you wouldn't know.
I think there is beauty in that, when you don't know, and you think you know.
Btw the most human part of us like we can say anything, but we can't.
Yes, I visited Nihon once many years ago. I really wish I could go back because I’ve learned so much more about the culture since I returned.
When I was working, I loved buying little gifts whenever I saw something special not for an occasion, but just because.
I’d pick up souvenirs on trips or treats for friends, or a little something for a friend's child, with no pressure at all.
But I agree, in the real world, gift-giving can sometimes feel like a series of little bribes or connections we have to maintain. Feels like a burden to me.
Back then, it was heartbreaking and so embarrassing. Looking back now, it just feels silly and still embarrassing, maybe he was actually right to call me stupid! Lol. I really wish I had my own personal Doraemon so I could time travel back and prevent myself from doing that.
But think about it, if things were different, would you still be you?
Or would you prefer the new version?
A new version sounds tempting, but I have to own everything that has happened. The good, the bad, and everything in between.