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RE: If You Only See Yourself
First, spend a few weeks together in a small tent, the kind where you have to crawl outside in your sleeping bag and then go inside, and see if you can survive that.
I have to ask, why did camping come to mind? Do you like it, or are you watching a show about it? Because I am watching Solo Camping for Two!
It looks so enjoyable, and I almost convinced myself I wanted to try it until I remembered who I am. I have a hard enough time with public toilets; how would I ever survive actual camping? I think all the guys in the world would give up on me on the first night! LOL
I don't like camping at all; I find it hard going. I prefer to travel around in a camper van, but I don't have one anymore. It was an old 1970 Ford van that had been converted into a camper van. It was like a doll's house. As for my comment about camping, that comes from my father. He once said that if you couldn't last two weeks in a tiny tent where you had to crawl outside in your sleeping bag and then try to get into the tent and you couldn't turn around, and of course the weather had to be awful, then if you couldn't survive that, you definitely shouldn't move in with someone. In my opinion, going for a drive with a man and going out for dinner together is enough. There are a lot of men who become aggressive in traffic when things don't go their way, and then there are their table manners. You can glean a lot of information from that, and those are the things that are bound to annoy you. Any know-it-all behaviour, dominance or aggressive behaviour when things go wrong are definitely worth considering as reasons not to continue the relationship. I also think that, in addition to having your own life, you need to have the same interests, otherwise everything will fall apart.
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The camper van idea is actually really interesting to me because you can actually live in it. I love watching those videos on social media, but of course they usually only show the good bits. No one ever mentions the reality of clearing out the toilet. That's definitely not a flush and done thing.
I think there are plenty of videos showing how to clean the toilet and how to shower, whether or not in those super-small campervans. Those are the kinds of things you'll probably find if you search for 'tiny homes'. I enjoy watching them too. When it comes down to it, you can be happy with very little. I did see a woman who had literally turned a caddy into a kind of camper van, which means she lies down in the back, puts the mattress down, puts a cupboard around it, and that would be a bit too small for me. I don't think she had a toilet either, or maybe something that could serve as one in an emergency. I don't necessarily need a shower room or a bathtub, because there are plenty of campervan sites that have those, so you can just go there, but I do want to be able to wash myself, and a solution for doing laundry would also be nice. Perhaps that can also be found at campervan sites. There aren't many laundrettes around here anymore. There are also those who share their troubles, such as how they get through the winter or how they deal with moisture and condensation, or the problem of being placed somewhere to stand while others seem to stand in the same place for ages and only start the thing when they go shopping. There are also plenty who always have the internet with them and just use a solar panel, which powers everything, including the fridge. The ways in which they cook are also very interesting.
To me these are cosy homes.
Search for: tiny home vans
Women of all ages live in freedom and there are such a cosy ones 😍
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I think a lot of it depends on where you are in the world. I don’t think Malaysia has the facilities for this. Like the dedicated sites, public showers, or even the basic safety required.
I recently watched a Japanese drama where a man had a full fridge and cooking space in his van, even hosting guests! Though, his wife kicked him out because he spent their savings to buy it.
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I also think you should always take precautions to keep yourself safe. You need to adapt your motorhome accordingly. Perhaps a good guard dog is also important, and not just a small lap dog that only bites. A cell defence weapon or course is also no luxury. In addition, you will have to consider where you are going to park, because not everywhere is equally safe. A security camera is also a good idea. It is a strange habit of the Japanese to run off with all their savings. Unless they are married under a prenuptial agreement. I know a Dutch couple who sold their house because she wanted to buy a castle in France to renovate. She did that and he bought a houseboat. Both are happy and yes, still married.
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Even if a man isn't trying to punch someone or trying to run people over, you can learn a lot about them by what comes out of his mouth in traffic. Nasty words, racist stuff, misogynistic thoughts. Not sure if it's the case with your culture but men here very much like to accuse women as bad drivers
I totally agree so a drive, dinner and a few weeks in a tent is all you need to figure it out and meet the real person.
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I think dinner alone isn't enough; it’s too easy for them to keep their mask on unless they start treating the waitstaff badly.