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RE: You Will Live in Misery if You Love Too Little
Misery loves company - so the saying goes. It's true and it's no good as you found out. You must take care of your own needs before helping somebody else.
I've had a teenage relative pressured into saying with a partner because the partner had problems. The therapist thought it better to risk the mental health of my relative rather than a potential suicide. Let's just say we got that dealt with and helped the relative make up their mind about what to do. That some big talks about self-care first, boundaries etc. In some sense, it was a good lesson to learn for one so young - to look out for red flag behaviours in others.
At least we're all stronger for our lessons. Thanks, as always, for sharing yours.
Well, I was suicidal from 1997 till 2000, but can laugh about it now. Did not want company- just wanted to die. Even lied to the therapist for about 6 months that all was well while I planned the next attempt.
People used me after I recovered, and have been depressed about it if not suicidal again. Generosity has always landed me in trouble. Tried to change and did well to an extent. Been cold and indifferent (contrary to my true nature) in situations where any human's heart would melt. A lot needs to be done still as I find myself with a lot of 'virtue' left compared to an average human.
Thanks for reading!
Much love fellow human. Glad to have you with us as we all struggle on through.
Pleased to meet you too, mate. :)
Yes, no one's free from problems and they are everywhere. But we gradually learn to swim the river life; often it gets easier day by day if one learns from mistakes, does not repeat them.
Thank you again!
That was a long time and I'm glad you have recovered. I perfectly understand that in time, it could make you cold and indifferent...
Not yet! I reckon we can change our basic nature only to an extent for the better or worse.
I guess, only with a mental breakdown people drastically, but it's chaotic, and it isn't helpful to themselves or to the society.
Hmmm not that I was selfish or that I didn't care about my ex before, but him committing suicide had nothing to with me. It would be too selfish for him to leave me here to take the blame for his death.Later I found out that I greatly helped my ex by leaving him as he was able to deal with issues about himself first. So I think the therapist advising the girl to stay with her partner, was like the parents of my ex.
True.