Emotions and Practising self compassion -Day 63 slimming journal
I am not going to lie all last week I felt unbelievable sad and heart broken!
Don’t worry, I am not going to bore you with every detail....
I got message last week that my friend died in car accident and all week I just couldn’t stop thinking and questioning everything about life.
I made myself tired from thinking, I didn’t go gym, I was angry and sad, than angry again...you can probably imagine😔
Today I am in much better place and I can finally think straight.
How did I make myself feel better?
Years ago I learnt to ignore my emotions which never really helped but this year I found that actually observing emotions and exploring about them helps me to heal quicker!
I practiced self compassion during my meditation every day for 20min and this really helped me!
Self compassion is simply talking to inner self just as kind as we do to our best friends or people we love. Sometimes it’s like talking softly to a child.
Soft talk is so soothing which some how makes it easier to understand that suffering, failure and imperfections are the part of the life.
Self compassion is a very powerful tool to stop negative self talk and accept things as they are at the moment.
When it comes to food.....
We all know that emotions can drive us to a food land so this week all I did was pausing every time I was about to eat and asked myself?
Am I really hungry?
If the answer was “no”
I had a glass of water and took just about 3 min trying to discover what am I really hungering for?
Usually feeling hungry kept coming from POWERLESSNESS and frustaration just those 2 made me want to eat food!
Food always understands just like a glass of wine is always an answer for some😉
Recognising which emotions drive me to eat,helped in finding a better “coping habit” than food.
- I walked lots last week
- I meditated more
- I listened to more podcasts about life and religion
- Fruit was my candy, I allowed myself lots of it!
- I did all my assignments for my coursework.
- Gave all I can to my family and I cherished every minute of that time!
Now my friend lets practise this together😉
Practising self compassion can feel very uncomfortable at the beginning because we are all grownups and we always care more for others then ourselves. However, I really want you to think about few simple words you tell people you love, to help them feel better and post it right below👇👇👇
These are those words you can tell yourself when you really struggle with about anything from eating 5 doughnuts in one seating and feeling guilty about it to feeling sad, angry or ashamed about something!
Please, tell me what are the words you would use to help people you love the most?
I don't really know honestly. I don't have set words for those sorts of things.
I tend to give my honest opinion when people I care about are down based on what they are saying, while also trying not to dismiss their feelings about it. I tend to deal with it all factually. If it's related to a bad situation that can be temporary, I'll sometimes mention that it's a temporary, because everything is, and I have found that somewhat comforting in times when life has been hard, but that's about the only consistent thing I guess.
As for self-compassion, it is important or at least stopping self-hatred is, and I'm learning how to do that now, but I'm definitely not there yet. I don't expect it to be easy to stop self-hatred and idk if stopping it is even possible but I still want to hate myself less at least.
I'm also not great at observing my emotions but I don't think it was that I learned to ignore them. I think I'm just not very good at recognising them. I'm more likely to just feel shitty and not know why unless I take time to process what is going on (and even then I don't always work it out) or to think I feel fine but not realise I'm actually not fine until it becomes more obvious.
Wow! I appreciate your honesty. Your comment actually made me realise that there is so much to learn about our inner self. I personally like this process as it really improves my daily live, ones I learn quickly enough what bothers me.
I am currently looking more into mindfulness and meditation as it’s just awesome for my wellbeing, I purchased the app called “calm” for my android and it’s just amazing!
There are so many different meditation types and I can choose what I want to heal quicker.
Thank you for stopping by, I hope you will have a wonderful day today😉
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I haven't tried calm before. It sounds good that it has multiple types of meditations in it. I have a Headspace subscription and it works well. It's a lot better than my earlier attempts at meditation when I was younger. I looked into Buddhism for a while as a teen and their meditation was all about reaching Nirvana (the state where you stop producing karma, not the band) which meant it was focused around "not thinking". As a teenage girl with ADHD (undiagnosed at the time) that was impossible and just got frustrating. I might as well have been trying to shoot fireballs out of my hand.
Headspace uses guided meditations and has actually been quite useful unlike the "stop thinking" style of meditation.
I also downloaded a meditation program for our Oculus Rift (VR headset) but I haven't tried that out yet. I'll have to sometime. Most of the headspace ones have you do some of it with your eyes open but ultimately close your eyes during the meditation, but I'd assume in VR you wouldn't close your eyes (otherwise why be in VR), so I imagine that will be a completely different experience again. Not sure what it will be like but it is definitely worth a try.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend and good to read about the way you are managing to process it. Observing emotions really is a powerful thing that can help a lot.
I'm not so much a person with all that many words, I rather take some action to show support.
Keep it up, you are doing awesome !
Thank you. It means a lot when someone just show a little understanding. I consider myself as a very private person but sometimes we just need to reach out to world out there to see things from different perspective. Internet these days is really powerful thing😁
Have a lovely weekend❤️
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Well, instead of eating doughnuts try to binge on a plant-based diet. Haha, gets really hard with a lot of volume.