WORDS HURT, THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. BE THE ONE... ❤❤
The last few days we have been going through few problems with my daughters work, her boss has been bullying her. Nichola couldn't take anymore so has since left her job, she had to for her own mental health. It started me thinking about my past abuse and what matters.
Here's something we used to say when we were children, this is going back over 40 years.
This saying couldn't be more wrong, people need to learn to think before they open there mouths or in the case of cyber bullying think before they type. Words do hurt, they can't be forgotten and once there out they can't be taken back.
I saw a post on Facebook from a friend who made the point very clear.
Her daughter was starting senior school, she took a plate with a tube of toothpaste, squirted half the toothpaste onto the plate then asked her daughter to put every single drop back into the tube, fill it as it was before. Her daughter said that is impossible, her mum's reply, this is exactly the same if you say the wrong thing.
Saying the wrong thing can destroy someone, not just for now but for years to come, doesn't matter how hard you try to apologise or say you didn't mean it, they have already been said, the seed has been planted.
I am going back to my childhood where i was abused, physically and mentally. The bruises from the beating have cleared up and not really thought about, the names i was called everyday from were sown back then and now grown to full blown depression, low self esteem and no confidence. Its the words/names i was called that have done the most damage.
Think before you speak, don't let name calling or put downs leave your mouth, be the one that praises and makes people feel good about themselves.
Sometimes its the anger that makes us say something, we want to hurt whoever we are arguing with, we want them to feel pain. We know better now, we know how much those words can cut people and the pain last for years. When you open your mouth try saying how much they are loved, how beautiful/handsome they are etc give encouragement instead destroying someone just because your angry. Don't ruin someone's life just to make yours feel better for a second. Life is way to short.
Thank you @son-of-satire
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Nicely said @karenb54 something for many of these managers to think about, but they are so up in the sky with their power over people not sure most of them care anymore, my boss as told me so many times how useless I'am yet I often get asked to do extra work, luckily I mostly ignore him.