That's a great point. I guess in some ways I see entitlement and victimhood as two sides of the same coin, as they both revolve around a sense that what happens is happening to us, that it's not really our responsibility, but it's what the world owes us (regardless of what we do) or how the world treats us (regardless of the role we played)

I remember how I felt... 13 months ago maybe? Whenever it was that Jimmy sent me that message about pulling his delegation. Not only was I losing the majority of the rewards for my posts (my only income source), but then I had to take that information to everybody in the tribe. Obviously the fact that it was affecting all of us brought us together and seemed to spark a lot of problem-solving mindsets into work, but you could feel the way we all sort of got the wind knocked out of us.

I certainly could have handled the conversation better (and obviously wasn't planning on it being a public conversation either), but overall I feel pretty good about how I communicated. Certainly a hell of a lot better than I would have a couple years ago. Honestly, as the other person goes farther and farther over the edge, it becomes easier and easier to not take it personally and know that the emotional turmoil certainly wasn't about me.

Have you ever read The Voice of Knowledge by Miguel Ruiz? I read it about a month ago, and it's just seemed more and more relevant ever since. Focuses on the stories we tell, the fact that nobody is ever talking about or reacting to us, but simply the character in their movie that we are a placeholder for.

Thanks for dropping in and giving your insight brother!