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Yes! And being an adviser who won’t push or remove stuff means they can tell you anything. And when they get into their teens and late teens you want them to feel they can talk to you about anything because I think it’s when they really need to sound things out and check how you react.
My dd17 said to a friend of ours “I always check my mum’s face to see if what I’m doing is safe or crazy.” “Eek!” I said!
That’s quite a vote of trust. She knows she can go do what she wants. She doesn’t feel like I’ll hold her back. But she checks my judgment to second check hers.

And then she looks after herself.

Also, a parent is someone who’ll love you unconditionally, so you can make what you think are mistakes and you can tell them and get advice, comfort, get it off your chest. And the next day is the next day. You can move on.