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RE: Mini Motivation #29 - Is "fake it until you make it" really good advice?
Coincidentally, I just finished writing a post yesterday almost similar to "Fake it till you make it". I'd like to have your opinion.
The why is to be happier at work.
The How is bring out the traits and values of the strengths in you, or strengths that you want to have.
So that grey area is "the strengths that you want to have". Let's say I want to be kind. So I consciously think of ways to be kind and act on them.
Does this mean "fake it till you make it?"
I think it's quite hard to fake kindness. However, in the process of practicing kindness, you'll find that it will become more natural to you. For 2 reasons.
Humans are generally kind in nature, but circumstances make us behave selfishly. By practicing kindness, you'll be reconnecting with your roots, your original intentions for the world.
Kindness is not a skill, but an attitude. I believe it's worth investing in working on your attitude, even if it's uncomfortable at the beginning. Rather faking it, you've developed proper understanding of why kindness is a worthy practice. Attitude internalized!
The word you chose practicing instead of faking is a huge difference.
What skill or attitude you practice? vs Who you are faking?
I agree with you that we are born kind and good. And our attitudes were strayed off the path in our lifetime.
Throughout my journey in practicing kindness, first moments are awkward, I feel like "This is not me" but it's a process I must go through to internalize kindness.
Thank you for your opinion. I'm clearer now.
Haha, yeah, awkward is the word! It's sometimes easy to look at kids, before the adults affect (ahem pollute) them too much. Naturally, kids are kind and curious. I like to think we all were. :)
That's why sometimes it's good that we act like children (but not childish), that's to regain our curiosity and creativity, and kindness of course :)