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RE: SECRET WRITER: The Woman Of My Dreams Cheated On Me And Nearly Destroyed My Life
I was already telling her how far I would go for her and that I would die for her and that I would never let anything or anyone harm her.
....aaaand that's where he lost her. Women need a bit uncertainty. If you are a given, bye bye.
I would say that both men and women operate similarly in this department. We tend not to like those who like us to an extreme degree. It feels unhealthy. Having a healthy respect for oneself is paramount to having a loving relationship. Dependent love, the kind of romantic love this is, and I too have experienced, and that which was common in romantic literature of the past has sort of gone out of fashion. It is something that modern people reject. It feels a little creepy when someone loves you so much, like the other person's life depended upon you. It is suffocating, this kind of dependent love. It can be a stage of love too, as we mature, we become more independent, more loving of ourselves instead of attaching our worth and life onto another.
Extreme levels of the type "oh you are my whole world" are somewhat unhealthy in that it betrays that the person giving that love may have some underlying emotional issue or void that they are trying to fill.
Now men are kind of different to women in that they are not uniform in their reactions to this type of love. Actually they are divided in two categories. Those who would appreciate a total dedication (without being creeped out) and those who would exploit it. If the man is more "beta" he will tend towards the first category of appreciation/devotion. If the man is more "alpha" he will tend towards the second category of exploitation.