Good point you make, @enginewitty - it's instinctive for people to want to offer words of comfort to others who are grieving for a lost loved one - yet words backfire, and fail, or at best fall short. When my sister was killed, not one word of "consolation" ever consoled. And yet, knowing the futility of words, I continue to offer words myself - as if I didn't know better. Thanks for the reminder.