Healthy Mind: Anger Is Not a Weapon!

Many people have an uneasy relationship with anger.

In some ways, it may be one of the most misunderstood of human emotions.

Some people avoid anger all together, having been taught that it is a "bad" emotion or a "dark" emotion that should be avoided at all costs.

However, bottling up your anger when you're actually feeling it is not good for your health... and will often lead to inappropriate outbursts in response to something that wasn't even the original cause of the outburst!

At the opposite end of the spectrum, many people reach for anger and indignance like a smoker reaches for another cigarette, or a drinker reaches for the next class of wine. In short, they are almost addicted to anger and reach for it as a default emotion even when a different response would be far more appropriate.

Part of what makes their anger difficult to understand and even toxic is the fact that during moments when they're not feeling anger they might claim to be all about peace and "not being in their ego."

Regardless of your particular strategy, it is sadly a fact that most people do not have a healthy relationship with anger.

So let's take a look at anger for a moment. Consider that anger is basically a message from your true self that something is not the way you want it to be. It is no more than that, and no less.

Constructive anger inspires people to take action and to change something in their lives that is not working the way they wanted to be.

Destructive anger — which is perhaps what most of us are familiar with from personal experience and from watching TV and movies — tends to involve raised voices, thrown objects and punching holes in walls.

Whereas there might be a large "explosion," it seldom leads to much, in terms of tangible resolution to the situation.

In isolation, most of us are aware that such behaviors are inappropriate and that we should refrain from them. However, In the Heat of the Moment that all goes out the window among those who have not learned how to emotionally self regulate.

Back before Psychology was much of a recognized discipline, people with anger issues were generally told that a good way to avoid getting needlessly angry was to "count to ten" when you felt anger rise up inside you.

Although there is much sophisticated research on anger and how to deal with it in our current age, that old-fashioned way of approaching anger still remains quite valid. The reason it works, is that it allows you to briefly pause and respond to a situation rather than reacting to it.

And when you find yourself able to respond to a situation, typically the violent aspects of anger can be reduced or completely avoided.

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