RE: Last Chat On The Deadbed, An entry for @wakeupkitty's contest
She wanted to have you close and I believe that's a sign of love and she did love you otherwise she wouldn't have asked. She also knew you had other responsibilities and realized that you had to go although she would have loved to keep you a bit longer at her side but at the moment she told you to go she said goodbye and was okay with you leaving.
I don't think all the hate you describe is true. She didn't hate you for leaving, she knew it was a goodbye and you had to continue with your life. I don't believe that many people hate. They feel neglected, angry, scared, abandoned, lonely but that isn't hate.
Also the one who dies shouldn't be worried about how the rest of the family acts. Unfortunately, that is what happens in many cases which makes dying harder but no matter how long it takes the family has to find a way and continue with their lives. If they hate another and mess up it's their responsibility.
We all have our own responsibilities, our own family (partner/children to take care of) but at the first place we should take care of ourselves. If we can't manage we will drag everyone around us in a pool of misery.
Hating children because they don't fulfill their responsibilities? If it comes to that I can only say as a parent how disappointed I am and if they don't take their lives in their own hands I will kick them out. Why? Because if you always depend on someone else you will never learn anything. Next to that I didn't raise my children to be parasites and I don't feel the need to always rescue them.
There was a lot of hatred as one of my grandfathers died. He refused to see his wife and one daughter (my mother) at that time. I understand why he did that and I would have done the same but what saddens me most is the reason and he had allowed them to ruin him.
Sorry to answer your #comment late.
I think what you said is more appropriate. I remember clearly there was a little disappointment when I asked permission to return to work, but my mother-in-law realized that there was a responsibility that I had to do. However, all of that left a mark so that I became more aware of how much she loved me. From that fact I knew and realized how I had to take care of her daughter who was also my wife. I had to see how the mother who had conceived then given birth and raised a beautiful girl and then I took it. Isn't this a form of "cruelty"?
I try to continue to maintain this attitude and attention as a form of responsibility for getting a daughter from my mother-in-law.
so every time there is a problem I will return it to the love of our mother and parents. that will make us more aware that we have a responsibility and don't need to avoid problems.
"Face it and it will definitely be resolved with the best"