Adjustments become a habit

This happens very commonly in a family, where sometimes one person keeps adjusting to the needs of other people in the home. And these adjustments are majorly done by the women of the home. But what happens eventually is that these adjustments are taken for granted and they become a habit. Adjustments are also another name for sacrifices that the person makes. If they happen too regularly they will go unnoticed and not be valued also.

It becomes unfair for one person to keep adjusting in the family. The women will make adjustments for her husband, her children, her in-laws, parents, everyone and she is expected to do this without ever complaining. Is this really fair. In Indian households it is very common. No matter how much ever we talk about empowerment and freedom, still in some areas of life it has become an unsaid rule that the woman has to adjust.

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And when it happens very regularly, it just becomes a habit even without realization and the person who keeps making adjustments sets into this mode of sacrificing all the time. There are so many women who I hear saying, So what. But then I tell them, why it's you all the time. Sometimes even a leisure thing to do is a necessity and to give up on that for adjusting other things may not be right, even if it is for leisure. Important things will keep coming up daily in a family and every single person of the family need to make adjustments and just not one person.

Understanding other people's need and taking care of them is good but it should not come at the cost of your mental health where you feel disheartened and unhappy. One should not forget to nurture their own needs while taking care of others.

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